We are a lesbian couple living and loving – like any other monogamous couple. We’ll call ourselves Ari and Jay to protect the not so innocent and to keep our lives just a little private. Why the veil of secrecy? Well, we plan on really going in on our lives, letting out some juicy details and giving our readers a glimpse inside our lives. Since we want to give this blog as much authenticity as possible, it’s important that in our private lives – we can be just that, private.
With that cleared up – let’s get into who we really are. We are highly educated African American lesbians. I’m Ari and I have a Master’s in Communication and I’ve been working in the entertainment industry since I was 15. I’m almost 32 and I’m new to my true lezbeyond-self. I dated men my whole life – until I broke up with the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. We were together for more than 10 years, marriage and kids never happened and I always wondered how I am going to stay in this and never explore the side of myself that likes women? Enter match.com post breakup. That’s when I met Jay. She casually stopped by my page without so much as a “Hi.” Her picture was so fly and when I read her qualities and profile, I knew I had to talk to her. We started emailing and within a few days – we were hooked. We’ll get more into our relationship and the details of all we do as the blog grows.
We had to start Lezbeyond because we just couldn’t relate to anything else we saw online or in mainstream media. Let’s face it, gay men have defined themselves and broken through the LGBT movement in ways we women have yet to approach. We also had to let the world know that there are Black lesbians – yeah, we exist – and we’re very diverse. Femmes, aggressive, aggressive femmes, studs, undercovers, married, single, monogamous – etc. We represent one couple and we invite other lesbians, no matter your race, to chime in and help us school the world on all things lesbian and beyond. As for me, Ari, I am a femme to the core. There is not a tomboy bone in my body. I love sexy women with a feminine edge. I love a woman who’s got an aggressive side but when you look at her face all you see if pretty. That’s where Jay comes in.
I’m Jay and I’m 35 and I’ve been on the lesbian scene for about 5 yrs. I can’t say I’ve been actively in the lesbian world but I’ve been out and about. I have an MBA and have worked in the advertising industry for 12 yrs and love the good, bad and ugly of advertising. I’ve dated men in my past but I’ve known I’ve been a lesbian since first grade…well at the time “I liked girls”. I’ve been dating women for about 7 yrs now. The last relationship I was in..hmmm let’s say for now, “It really wasn’t meant to be”. That relationship pushed me to join match.com and then I found my match! It was a blessing to find someone who was on my level and also shared some of my dreams and goals at the same time. Once we started to email each other it was obvious this was worth exploring and here we are!